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S*x S*x S*x... It is important to talk about s*x. I found out that majority of us are not feeling s**y or s*x, if I can just put it straight, but the most important is to know why we are not feeling s*x anymore then it would pave way to find a lasting solution to the problem
1. You Have Insomnia: Simply put, "you're not going to feel horny if you don't get enough sleep," Laurie Mintz, a professor of counseling psychology at the University of Florida and author of "A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate S*x" told HuffPost. More serious, persistent sleep problems like insomnia -- which can be short- or longterm and is characterized by trouble falling asleep, staying asleep or both -- can take a particularly heavy toll.
2. You've Grappled With Infertility: More often than not, infertility is a wrenching experience for both partners, and one that can influence s*xual desire for months, or even years. When couples struggle to have a baby, it's typical for s*x to become highly scheduled and goal-oriented, Mintz said, and goal-oriented s*x tends to be less pleasurable. After long stretches of trying to conceive, the feeling of "I want something really badly and my body is failing me" becomes wrapped up in s*x and s**ual
3. Someone Cheated: "After an affair, it's really hard for many people to have s*x and not think, 'You did this with someone else,'" Mintz explained. It's not atypical for women to have s*x issues after being cheated on and finding out about it, or after they themselves cheat (whether or not their partner knows). "After a woman has an affair, there can be guilt and stress and even fear of, 'If I do this differently [during s*x], they'll figure it out.'" she added
4. You're A New Mom: There are plenty of reasons why, as a new mom, you might have zilch going on in the se*ual desire arena. First, there's sheer exhaustion, Mintz said, but there are also hormonal changes that come with pregnancy and birth, and then there's the task of getting used to your body in its new form. Plus, some women can experience vaginal dryness while breastfeeding.
5. Your Thyroid's Off: Whenever she sees a female client who recently experienced a sudden onset of low se*ual desire, Mintz sends her to get her thyroid checked. The thyroid gland, which is located in the front of the neck, secretes several key hormones and can influence a person's s*x life (male or female) if it's too active, or not active enough
6. You're Taking Meds: Oftentimes, women don't realize that certain medications are altering their se*ual desire and performance, Mintz said. Hormonal birth control is a biggie -- a major study from 2010 that looked at se*ual function in more than 1,000 women found that those who were on hormonal birth control had lower levels of desire and arousal than those who were not
7. You're Insecure About Your Body: "About 10 to 20 percent of my clients have body image issues that sabotage their s*x lives," Amy Levine, a s*x coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure once said. Though men certainlyhave body insecurities, she tends to see more females than males who come to her struggling with body image. Many see not having s*x as a way to hide body parts they feel insecure about. And that, in turn, can lead to overall diminished desire, Levine said.
8. You've Gone Through A Big Hormone Change: Hormonally-speaking, women generally experience some pretty big highs and lows throughout the their lives, and those swings can have all sorts of effects. For many women, menopause can lead to a drop in se*ual desire, as the body produces less estrogen. (Although, as Mintz explained, some menopausal women report that their s*x drive actually increases.) And the aforementioned new mom-hood can be
9. Stagnation: Stagnation can mean many things when it comes to s*x. Physical stagnation, or lack of movement, can take a toll on libido, Levine said. "It's important to move your body and get energy flowing," she explained, adding that although few scientific studies have addressed the connection between general movement and s*x, it's easy to see how oxygenating the body and getting blood flowing, through yoga or a movement class can allow "tingly sensations to activate your
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