WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT CHILD MARRIAGE

Welcome to another edition. Today, i will like us to discuss about a critical topic which have a major impact in our society. it is called "Child Marriage". 

The Child Marriage is simply mean marriage before the age of 18. This is a human rights violation that affects millions of children worldwide. It is a complex issue driven by various factors, including poverty, cultural traditions, and lack of education.

According to UNICEF, in 2020, 27% of women aged 20-24 were married before the age of 18. 

There are several repercussions of Child Marriage which includes:

*    Limited access to education and economic opportunities

*    Increased risk of domestic violence and abuse

*    Poor health outcomes, including higher maternal mortality rates

*    Perpetuation of poverty and inequality

What are the efforts to prevent child marriage include:

*    Education and awareness-raising campaigns

*    Empowerment of girls and women

*    Policy reforms and enforcement

*    Support for vulnerable families

What empowers or enchances Child Marriage:

- Poverty: Families may see marriage as a way to secure financial stability

- Cultural traditions: Child marriage may be deeply ingrained in local customs

- Lack of education: Limited access to education can lead to early marriage

- Gender inequality: Girls may be seen as a burden or as property

What has been done so far .....

While progress has been made, more work is needed to address child marriage. The United Nations' Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs) aim to eliminate child marriage by 2030.

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ADVICE TO A CAREER MAN AND WOMAN WITH MARITAL ISSUES

I welcome all our Readers.

Over the years, we have seen or heard about people struggling with partners who are career people. Some even concluded that they cannot marry a career man or woman.

Our CEO (Marital Solution & World Research) has some tips that might help you even though you can't express the situation to a professional counselor or therapist.

For Career Women:

1. Communicate openly: Share your feelings, needs, and concerns with your partner. Be honest and transparent about your career goals and how they may be impacting your marriage. Listen to him and have an agreement.

2. Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries between work and personal life to maintain a healthy work-life balance. No matter how your job take your time, you must separate your marriage from work.

3. Prioritize self-care: Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies.

4. Seek support: Build a support network of friends (Reasonable Ones), family, or a therapist who can offer emotional support and guidance. But by doing this, choose wisely.

5. Re-evaluate priorities: Take time to reflect on your priorities and values. Ask yourself, "What's most important to me in my marriage and career?"

For Career Men:

1. Listen actively: Pay attention to your partner's concerns and feelings. Make an effort to understand their perspective and validate their emotions.

2. Be supportive: Offer encouragement and support your partner's career goals and aspirations.

3. Share responsibilities: Divide household and childcare responsibilities fairly to reduce stress and promote a sense of teamwork.

4. Communicate your needs: Openly share your own needs, desires, and stressors with your partner.

5. Take breaks together: Regularly schedule quality time with your partner to reconnect and strengthen your bond.

For Both:

1. Schedule quality time: Regularly set aside time for each other, without distractions.

2. Practice empathy and understanding: Try to see things from each other's perspective and be patient with each other's stresses and challenges.

3. Seek counseling: Consider couples therapy to work through issues together with a professional guide.

4. Foster intimacy: Prioritize emotional and physical intimacy to maintain a strong connection.

5. Celebrate each other's successes: Acknowledge and celebrate each other's achievements, both in your careers and personal lives.

6. Prayer: No matter what religion you practise, please pray as a family with or without your children.

Thank you for reading!

5 ROUTES A MAN CAN AVOID DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

I welcome you to another shipshape edition of love and relationship issues. Today, i will be talking about five (5) escape route to domestic violence.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE can simply be put as a behavior which involves violence or other abuse by one person in a domestic act against another, such as in marriage or cohabitation. Intimate partner violence is violence by a spouse or partner in an intimate relationship against the other spouse or partner.

If you are one of the miserable men who actually physically abuse your wife, then it’s time to stop now!

Globally, wife-beating is seen as justified in some circumstances by a majority of the population in various countries, most commonly in situations of actual or suspected infidelity by wives or their "disobedience" toward a husband or partner.

I have these 5 routes to avoid men abusing their wives:

1. FORMULAE WALK-AWAY: As a responsible man, you need to understand that women are fragile in nature and no matter how they behave, man will always be stronger than them (women). If there is a quarrel between you and your wife, the best thing to do is to walk away from the scene, either by walking to other room in the house or  you go out from the house. If you return after some hours and she still flame-up, keep mute, eat her food she prepared for you, call her attention to your reason of walking-away. I believe as a good wife, she will try to talk about the matter and by then you have to stand in man position to settle the issue and let her know where she get it wrong. 

2. RADIO-ATTITUDE : Sigh.. are you not amazed with this subhead title? "RADIO ATTITUDE" lollzz.. just like we all know the functions and how radio's are designed. Radio always gives information by talking, while the listener listen. "Anyone who is listening to a radio and you are responding to what you are hearing look like a insane being". Likewise husband and wife in marriage, let set this as an example: the Radio is the wife, while the Listener is the husband, you don't alter a word when your wife is burning words at you. Keep listening and after some minutes take a walk.

3. ACCEPTANCE OF OPINION : Women like to share ideas with their partner, in my opinion, have never met a mute woman in a marriage. As a man, dont let the sharing of idea cause argument that may lead to abuse, be patience enough and pay attention to her words, even if your mind is on financial responsibility, nod your head, make a move of good body language.



4. Use Anger Management Techniques to Interrupt the Anger Cycle (ref: LAIDE  SOTUNDE) : The following techniques is the pills to avoid abuse on your woman:

 Pause.
• Imagine how she could get hurt if you beat her up
• Take deep breaths.
• Tell yourself you can handle the situation.
• Walk out!

5. TAG YOURSELF WITH TIP 4: One of my colleague (blogger) gave this steps which was agreed on. Take this final steps to avoid going back to the irritating way:

Forgive
To ensure that the changes you are making go much deeper than the surface, you need to forgive the people in your life that have angered you. It is not easy letting go of past hurts and resentments but the only way to move past your anger is to let go of these feelings and start fresh. (Depending on what, or who, is at the root of your anger, you may have to solicit the help of a professional to achieve this fully.)
Listen
So many times, miscommunication contributes to frustrating and mistrusting situations. The better you listen to what a person is saying, the better you will be able to find a resolution that does not involve an anger response or bashing.
Relax
Angry people are often the ones who let the little things bother them. If you learn to calm down, you will realize that there is no need to get uptight and you will have fewer angry episodes.
Go for counselling
You can also take your wife along. It would be of great help if the counsellor counsels the both. Your wife needs to be involved because she is at the receiving end, she can help you stop beating her.