WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT CHILD MARRIAGE

Welcome to another edition. Today, i will like us to discuss about a critical topic which have a major impact in our society. it is called "Child Marriage". 

The Child Marriage is simply mean marriage before the age of 18. This is a human rights violation that affects millions of children worldwide. It is a complex issue driven by various factors, including poverty, cultural traditions, and lack of education.

According to UNICEF, in 2020, 27% of women aged 20-24 were married before the age of 18. 

There are several repercussions of Child Marriage which includes:

*    Limited access to education and economic opportunities

*    Increased risk of domestic violence and abuse

*    Poor health outcomes, including higher maternal mortality rates

*    Perpetuation of poverty and inequality

What are the efforts to prevent child marriage include:

*    Education and awareness-raising campaigns

*    Empowerment of girls and women

*    Policy reforms and enforcement

*    Support for vulnerable families

What empowers or enchances Child Marriage:

- Poverty: Families may see marriage as a way to secure financial stability

- Cultural traditions: Child marriage may be deeply ingrained in local customs

- Lack of education: Limited access to education can lead to early marriage

- Gender inequality: Girls may be seen as a burden or as property

What has been done so far .....

While progress has been made, more work is needed to address child marriage. The United Nations' Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs) aim to eliminate child marriage by 2030.

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ADVICE TO A CAREER MAN AND WOMAN WITH MARITAL ISSUES

I welcome all our Readers.

Over the years, we have seen or heard about people struggling with partners who are career people. Some even concluded that they cannot marry a career man or woman.

Our CEO (Marital Solution & World Research) has some tips that might help you even though you can't express the situation to a professional counselor or therapist.

For Career Women:

1. Communicate openly: Share your feelings, needs, and concerns with your partner. Be honest and transparent about your career goals and how they may be impacting your marriage. Listen to him and have an agreement.

2. Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries between work and personal life to maintain a healthy work-life balance. No matter how your job take your time, you must separate your marriage from work.

3. Prioritize self-care: Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies.

4. Seek support: Build a support network of friends (Reasonable Ones), family, or a therapist who can offer emotional support and guidance. But by doing this, choose wisely.

5. Re-evaluate priorities: Take time to reflect on your priorities and values. Ask yourself, "What's most important to me in my marriage and career?"

For Career Men:

1. Listen actively: Pay attention to your partner's concerns and feelings. Make an effort to understand their perspective and validate their emotions.

2. Be supportive: Offer encouragement and support your partner's career goals and aspirations.

3. Share responsibilities: Divide household and childcare responsibilities fairly to reduce stress and promote a sense of teamwork.

4. Communicate your needs: Openly share your own needs, desires, and stressors with your partner.

5. Take breaks together: Regularly schedule quality time with your partner to reconnect and strengthen your bond.

For Both:

1. Schedule quality time: Regularly set aside time for each other, without distractions.

2. Practice empathy and understanding: Try to see things from each other's perspective and be patient with each other's stresses and challenges.

3. Seek counseling: Consider couples therapy to work through issues together with a professional guide.

4. Foster intimacy: Prioritize emotional and physical intimacy to maintain a strong connection.

5. Celebrate each other's successes: Acknowledge and celebrate each other's achievements, both in your careers and personal lives.

6. Prayer: No matter what religion you practise, please pray as a family with or without your children.

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LOVE PROCEDURE: A Journey to Lasting Relationships

The Love Procedure: A Journey to Lasting Relationships

There are many thoughts we reflect on how to have and manage a good healthy relationship and understanding partner. So many people gave up on relationship because they dont know the guide to love procedure to help them to have a good relationship or how to proceed in maintaining a healthy relationship.

In today's fast-paced world, finding and maintaining meaningful relationships can be a daunting task. With the rise of dating apps and social media, it's easy to get caught up in the superficial aspects of love and forget the true essence of what makes a relationship thrive. That's where the Love Procedure comes in – a step-by-step guide to help you navigate the complexities of love and build a strong foundation for a lasting connection.

Here are some tips to help you out:

Step 1: Self-Reflection

Before embarking on the journey of finding love, it's essential to take a step back and reflect on yourself. What are your values, beliefs, and non-negotiables? What makes you tick, and what are your passions? Understanding yourself is crucial in attracting someone who resonates with your energy.

Step 2: Communication

Effective communication is the backbone of any successful relationship. It's not just about expressing yourself but also actively listening to your partner. Make time to engage in meaningful conversations, ask open-ended questions, and clarify expectations.

Step 3: Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and manage your emotions, as well as empathize with your partner's feelings. Practice self-awareness, acknowledge your triggers, and learn to resolve conflicts in a healthy and constructive manner.

Step 4: Vulnerability

Vulnerability is the key to building trust and intimacy in a relationship. Be willing to take risks, share your fears, and be susceptible to hurt. Remember, vulnerability is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Step 5: Compromise and Flexibility

No two individuals are alike, and relationships require compromise and flexibility. Learn to find common ground, be willing to adjust, and prioritize your partner's needs.

Step 6: Gratitude and Appreciation

Cultivate a sense of gratitude and appreciation for your partner and the relationship. Focus on the positives, celebrate milestones, and show genuine affection.

Step 7: Growth and Evolution

Relationships are a journey, not a destination. Embrace growth, learn from mistakes, and evolve together. Prioritize personal development, explore new experiences, and support each other's aspirations.

By following the Love Procedure, you'll be well on your way to building a strong, lasting relationship that's rooted in mutual respect, trust, and love. Remember, relationships take work, but with the right approach, the rewards are immeasurable.

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WRONG REASONS FOR GETTING MARRIED

After 2 years away, we are back again and this time we are here to stay. For people who stay connected to our page we say a big thank you. Going into relationship is like gaining admission to institution. Here are some fact some marry wrongly.



1. Dont get married because of LUST.

2. INFATUATION : love at first sight.

3. liking the idea of marriage.

4. The fear of remaining unmarried.

5. Pressure.

6. Escaping from being gilted.

7. Getting married because of money.

8. Escape route: escape from house chao, from parent, doing things as a child to parent.

9. Marrying because you pity him/her ( only few women can withstand men crying)

10. F**lish Expectation (marrying a unbeliever, and believing he will change)

11. beauty,handsomeness: to marry a man/woman because of beauty or handsome, is like buying a house because of paint.

12. ACCIDENTAL PREGNANCY

13. TRIBAL CONNECTION

14. Parental Satisfaction

15. To hurt your parent.


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10 WAYS TO KILL YOUR HUSBAND

10 WAYS TO KILL YOUR HUSBAND

A fun new way to start a new month and a welcome back note to all our fans (readers) who waited patiently and believe in us. We are back to delight you and inspire ourselves to know the world we are and also in marital life. The topic ringed a bell, "KILL" . while the kill there mean SATISFY,  that is: Ways to Satisfy your Husband.


1. Start with a love letter. Remember how eagerly you waited in the early days of your courtship to receive a letter or just a note from each other? Do it again, but this time count all the reasons, which you think make him the best husband. Your man will not only be happy to be reminded of your love but glad to know that he makes you happy as well.

2. Listen actively. When your husband expresses an opinion or a thought, pay attention. This shows you respect him and his views and nothing pleases a man more.

3. Greet your husband warmly after work.

4. Appreciate him by thanking him for doing his responsibility, and let him know you cant compare him with any man on earth.

5. Purchase something small and frivolous for him that he won't buy himself.

6. Say thank you with a smile. When your husband does an odd job around the house, thank him like you really mean it. He will know that his help is not taken for granted and he will be happy to do more.

7. Prepare his favourite meal. After he returns home from work on an ordinary day, surprise your husband with his favourite dinner.  He will not only be glad to have the food he likes best, but will appreciate the time and effort you put in preparing it.

8. Hold his gaze. When you are speaking to your husband or listening to him, make sure that you keep eye contact. This will assure him of your attention and your respect, which is empowering to any man.

9. Ask his family over. Your husband’s parents mean a lot to him. So ask them over for a Sunday lunch he will be touched by your loving gesture.

10. Send the kids to their grandparents’ or to a family member’s for a sleepover. Then snuggle up to your husband and ask what he would like to do, for the rest of the evening.


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LESSON IN QUOTES WHEN HEARTBROKEN

Dear Readers, thank you for visiting this blog, without you there will be no motivation toward writing new article as inspired.
Today, i like to share some quotes to encourage those who are heart-broken. There is life after death, say the Holy books likewise in love, there is a better love or better life after a heavy disaster Heart-break. The point is never give up, bring your head up to see the future and bring on the game.

The following quotes are from great writers, and am sure at the end of the article, you will be able to see that, you have better life after all those heart-break.


1. “To be rejected by someone doesn't mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn't mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember that only ONE person has rejected you at the moment, and it only hurt so much because to you, that person's opinion symbolized the opinion of the whole world, of God.” by  Jocelyn Soriano

2. “Never regret yesterday. Life is in you today, and you make your tomorrow.”
– L. Ron Hubbard3. “The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it…”– Nicholas Sparks4. “When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”– Alexander Graham Bell5. “Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”– Leo Buscaglia6. “No matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.”– Faraaz Kazi7. “No matter how bad your heart is broken, if you dont close eyes to your past, the future will be melt down by your grief.”– Esan Kunle (MaritalSolutionCEO)

8. “We have to do with the past only as we can make it useful to the present and the future.”– Frederick Douglass

9. “Always know that your heartbreak cannot be the greatest ever, dust yourself out from the grief and determine to love again”– Esan Kunle (MaritalSolutionCEO)

10. “Sometimes the only way the good Lord can get into some hearts is to break them.”

– Fulton Sheen

Love can be fix again even when scattered by emotion. i believe with this 10 point of quotes, you can now believe in love again. Kindly drop your comments.

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5 ROUTES A MAN CAN AVOID DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

I welcome you to another shipshape edition of love and relationship issues. Today, i will be talking about five (5) escape route to domestic violence.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE can simply be put as a behavior which involves violence or other abuse by one person in a domestic act against another, such as in marriage or cohabitation. Intimate partner violence is violence by a spouse or partner in an intimate relationship against the other spouse or partner.

If you are one of the miserable men who actually physically abuse your wife, then it’s time to stop now!

Globally, wife-beating is seen as justified in some circumstances by a majority of the population in various countries, most commonly in situations of actual or suspected infidelity by wives or their "disobedience" toward a husband or partner.

I have these 5 routes to avoid men abusing their wives:

1. FORMULAE WALK-AWAY: As a responsible man, you need to understand that women are fragile in nature and no matter how they behave, man will always be stronger than them (women). If there is a quarrel between you and your wife, the best thing to do is to walk away from the scene, either by walking to other room in the house or  you go out from the house. If you return after some hours and she still flame-up, keep mute, eat her food she prepared for you, call her attention to your reason of walking-away. I believe as a good wife, she will try to talk about the matter and by then you have to stand in man position to settle the issue and let her know where she get it wrong. 

2. RADIO-ATTITUDE : Sigh.. are you not amazed with this subhead title? "RADIO ATTITUDE" lollzz.. just like we all know the functions and how radio's are designed. Radio always gives information by talking, while the listener listen. "Anyone who is listening to a radio and you are responding to what you are hearing look like a insane being". Likewise husband and wife in marriage, let set this as an example: the Radio is the wife, while the Listener is the husband, you don't alter a word when your wife is burning words at you. Keep listening and after some minutes take a walk.

3. ACCEPTANCE OF OPINION : Women like to share ideas with their partner, in my opinion, have never met a mute woman in a marriage. As a man, dont let the sharing of idea cause argument that may lead to abuse, be patience enough and pay attention to her words, even if your mind is on financial responsibility, nod your head, make a move of good body language.



4. Use Anger Management Techniques to Interrupt the Anger Cycle (ref: LAIDE  SOTUNDE) : The following techniques is the pills to avoid abuse on your woman:

 Pause.
• Imagine how she could get hurt if you beat her up
• Take deep breaths.
• Tell yourself you can handle the situation.
• Walk out!

5. TAG YOURSELF WITH TIP 4: One of my colleague (blogger) gave this steps which was agreed on. Take this final steps to avoid going back to the irritating way:

Forgive
To ensure that the changes you are making go much deeper than the surface, you need to forgive the people in your life that have angered you. It is not easy letting go of past hurts and resentments but the only way to move past your anger is to let go of these feelings and start fresh. (Depending on what, or who, is at the root of your anger, you may have to solicit the help of a professional to achieve this fully.)
Listen
So many times, miscommunication contributes to frustrating and mistrusting situations. The better you listen to what a person is saying, the better you will be able to find a resolution that does not involve an anger response or bashing.
Relax
Angry people are often the ones who let the little things bother them. If you learn to calm down, you will realize that there is no need to get uptight and you will have fewer angry episodes.
Go for counselling
You can also take your wife along. It would be of great help if the counsellor counsels the both. Your wife needs to be involved because she is at the receiving end, she can help you stop beating her.

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The Subject of Kissing in Relationship, Courtship and Marriage

I have dealt with this topic before but the question keeps coming up in nearly all the meetings I hold, and so I want to revisit this issue again.

Is kissing a sin? That is a question on the lips of many young people who are serving God, but cannot seem to keep away from kissing each other as an expression of their love.

True to it, and as a counselor, I know there are many Christians who are doing this regularly. As a young man myself in courtship, I never had jeru trip with my fiancée then, but I kissed her a few times and I really felt guilty about it. In fact, the feeling I had was that the Holy Spirit was grieved at it. So, I am not oblivious of what you are going through exactly.

Now, having been married for some years, about sixteen years, I can tell you, that the strong urge to kiss as singles is just more of the devil trying to trip you than an expression of love! Folks in western countries might find this ridiculous as well, since they are more liberal and they often greet as well with no lust attached. 

Some of us go ahead and quote the scripture to justify this act. Well, in a very a straight forward way, you will never find a scripture that forbids kissing or that says, “thou shall not kiss.” In fact what you find are scriptures that seems to be encouraging kissing, and that in the New Testament!

All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss. (1 Corinthians 16:20 KJV)

Salute one another with an holy kiss. The churches of Christ salute you. (Romans 16:16 KJV)

Doesn’t this mean that God wants us to kiss?

The instruction to kiss that we see in the above verses and in some more places are verses that we have to consider in their cultural contexts.

The Jews usually kiss one another with a kiss, somewhat on the cheek and not a direct mouth-to-mouth kiss or some French kiss!

This is why Judas kissed Jesus Christ. He was just greeting him. It’s like a handshake.

And while he yet spake, behold a multitude, and he that was called Judas, one of the twelve, went before them, and drew near unto Jesus to kiss him. (Luke 22:47 KJV)

Kisses with Jews as described above is a form of greeting in their culture, hence Paul termed it as Holy Kissing.

In Nigeria, we don’t kiss one another with a kiss. Hence, the Jewish kiss is holy, but the Nigerian kiss is not holy! In non–Jewish states, a kiss outside wedlock between two people who are in love, behind closed doors will not be holy because it will lead to some unholy things!

The initial kiss might even be holy, but after a while, the law of progression will step in and before you know it, kissing will lead to some other things.

If I come into a meeting with my wife and an usher grabs my wife and plants a kiss on her, I will remove my suit and fight! Why? We don’t greet each other with some mouth-to-mouth kiss! If your handshake dey too long sef, I fit suspect you, not to talk of a kiss!

If you and your fiancée are kissing each other behind the church and as your pastor, I bump into you, who will apologise? It’s you! If as your Pastor, I’m kissing my wife behind the church, and you bump into us, who will still apologise? It is still you! Because we are married!

You see after marriage, if you want to kiss yourself 24 hours a day for the next one month; God is okay with it! Why? Your body belongs to each other! But after marriage, you will know that it is not all about kissing! It is about school fees, and house rent and pampers! You won’t feel like kissing all the time! So why would you want to jeopardise your relationship with God with what you can do as long as you want eventually?

The idea of holding on is where maturity is, and it is all about self-control. This is what separates the boys from the men! Ability to delay gratification!

Young ladies, when a guy comes and says, “let’s kiss,” you don’t submit your lips like you are submitting paper in examination hall. The power of life and death lies in your mouth! If the guy is hungry, why must it be your mouth that he would eat? If he is really hungry, doesn’t he know where they sell Kpomo (treated cowhide) in the market?

For married people, feel free to kiss yourselves! If your spouse loves it, then go ahead and give it! It won’t be a sin!

But for singles, always have this at the back of your mind that when you are in love, what you did with him or her, the last time you met will not satisfy you the next time! It is a law, so you need to consciously guard against that.

Finally, let me say, it is not wise to meet somebody and the next thing is that you are kissing! There are people you kiss, and your jaws are locked. There
are people you kiss, and as it were, you cannot pray again. There are strange mouths you kiss for five minutes, and it leads to regrets for the next five years! There are people you kiss, and your destiny is arrested. If you doubt that, ask Jesus, for it was the kiss of Judas that led to his arrest!

Article by: Pastor Dunamis Okunowo - Filed in KHC Devotional

Advice by: Mrs Ijilusi Oluwatomisin

Published by: www.maritalsolutionandworldresearch.blogspot.com

10 WAYS TO KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY WITHOUT ANYONE KNOWING

A recent marriage counsellor Poll found that 51 percent of people think that couples should hold off on sex until marriage, and (somewhat surprisingly) 47 percent of Millennials (ages 18-36) agree. The statistic is unexpected, given the ubiquity of premarital sex depicted in popular culture, but these numbers, which span age, sex, race, education and region, suggest that not everyone gets it on, or thinks you should, before getting hitched.

Virgins poll rate in the world found that : 
Girls dis-virgin between age (13-18 years) = 45%
Girls dis-virgin between age (19 - 25 years) = 70%
Girls dis-virgin between age (26 - 30 years) = 50%

Our CEO (Marital Solution & World Research) came out with 10 ways to keep your virginity. Your contribution is much appreciated... drop your comment below.


1.  NEVER DISCLOSE YOUR STATUS TO FRIENDS: Friend safe, friend kill.. no friend on this earth pray that my friend life should be much better than his own. If you are a virgin and you flaunt your status with your friends, trust me he or she will find a way to break the rule (dis-virgin) either by setting you up or doing that herself...Beware of friends and also be mindful of what you say outside.

2. TOO MUCH OVER-CONFIDENCE WITH OPPOSITE SEX: For this, am not saying you shouldn't trust your spouse/friends but be wise and mindful of what you agree with and where you go with him. Some will tell you that "Afterall, i will be the one to marry you, so let us do it (Dis-virgin), my dear please dont be fool because you cant be in rush to finish up the food you know is yours. Be wise and be smart.

3. PARTYING FREAK: Party Party...sigh., everyone loves fun in one way or the other but sometimes we get carried away with this enjoyment, some ladies get drunk to the extent of forgetting who they are whether male or female. From this kind of activity guys may take advantage of you because your leg is wide open.

4. CARELESS SLEEPING: Everyone has talk about it on how you sleep in friends house both guys and girls. it is very dangerous because you don't know the devilish one who may have lust-thought about you and get down on your knee.

5. DON'T HAVE BORING MOMENT: Never left alone at home or anywhere feeling boredom, because as you have a boring moment many thought will be coming to your heart and which emotional thought may involved.

6. DON'T TALK TOO MUCH WHEN GISTING: Someone that is talkative, will say lesser truth than lies and she can start boosting and talking about her virginity things among friends just to justify herself.

7. SELF-PRAISE: Boosting among your friends that "For me, no guys has ever sleep with me" this is self praise, trust me no matter how your friends loves you, once this happens you are opened for set-up

8. YOUR MIND SET MUST BE OF POSITIVE: You thought must be of positive, and never imagine a act of lust in your mind.

9. BE STRONG IN THE SPIRIT (RELIGIOUS): Be religious and prayerful, follow the words of God you believe.

10. DONT READ SEX OR ROMANTIC MAGAZINE: Reading all kind of romantic magazines can cause you of Lustful thinking and having negative thought about virginity. I am assuring you, Virginity is part of woman Pride.