Tuesday, 18 August 2015

LESSON IN QUOTES WHEN HEARTBROKEN

Dear Readers, thank you for visiting this blog, without you there will be no motivation toward writing new article as inspired.
Today, i like to share some quotes to encourage those who are heart-broken. There is life after death, say the Holy books likewise in love, there is a better love or better life after a heavy disaster Heart-break. The point is never give up, bring your head up to see the future and bring on the game.

The following quotes are from great writers, and am sure at the end of the article, you will be able to see that, you have better life after all those heart-break.


1. “To be rejected by someone doesn't mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn't mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember that only ONE person has rejected you at the moment, and it only hurt so much because to you, that person's opinion symbolized the opinion of the whole world, of God.” by  Jocelyn Soriano

2. “Never regret yesterday. Life is in you today, and you make your tomorrow.”
– L. Ron Hubbard3. “The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it…”– Nicholas Sparks4. “When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”– Alexander Graham Bell5. “Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”– Leo Buscaglia6. “No matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.”– Faraaz Kazi7. “No matter how bad your heart is broken, if you dont close eyes to your past, the future will be melt down by your grief.”– Esan Kunle (MaritalSolutionCEO)

8. “We have to do with the past only as we can make it useful to the present and the future.”– Frederick Douglass

9. “Always know that your heartbreak cannot be the greatest ever, dust yourself out from the grief and determine to love again”– Esan Kunle (MaritalSolutionCEO)

10. “Sometimes the only way the good Lord can get into some hearts is to break them.”
– Fulton Sheen
Love can be fix again even when scattered by emotion. i believe with this 10 point of quotes, you can now believe in love again. Kindly drop your comments.

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Wednesday, 8 July 2015

5 ROUTES A MAN CAN AVOID DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

I welcome you to another shipshape edition of love and relationship issues. Today, i will be talking about five (5) escape route to domestic violence.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE can simply be put as a behavior which involves violence or other abuse by one person in a domestic act against another, such as in marriage or cohabitationIntimate partner violence is violence by a spouse or partner in an intimate relationship against the other spouse or partner.

If you are one of the miserable men who actually physically abuse your wife, then it’s time to stop now!

Globally, wife-beating is seen as justified in some circumstances by a majority of the population in various countries, most commonly in situations of actual or suspected infidelity by wives or their "disobedience" toward a husband or partner.

I have these 5 routes to avoid men abusing their wives:

1. FORMULAE WALK-AWAY: As a responsible man, you need to understand that women are fragile in nature and no matter how they behave, man will always be stronger than them (women). If there is a quarrel between you and your wife, the best thing to do is to walk away from the scene, either by walking to other room in the house or  you go out from the house. If you return after some hours and she still flame-up, keep mute, eat her food she prepared for you, call her attention to your reason of walking-away. I believe as a good wife, she will try to talk about the matter and by then you have to stand in man position to settle the issue and let her know where she get it wrong. 



2. RADIO-ATTITUDE : Sigh.. are you not amazed with this subhead title? "RADIO ATTITUDE" lollzz.. just like we all know the functions and how radio's are designed. Radio always gives information by talking, while the listener listen. "Anyone who is listening to a radio and you are responding to what you are hearing look like a insane being". Likewise husband and wife in marriage, let set this as an example: the Radio is the wife, while the Listener is the husband, you don't alter a word when your wife is burning words at you. Keep listening and after some minutes take a walk.

3. ACCEPTANCE OF OPINION : Women like to share ideas with their partner, in my opinion, have never met a mute woman in a marriage. As a man, dont let the sharing of idea cause argument that may lead to abuse, be patience enough and pay attention to her words, even if your mind is on financial responsibility, nod your head, make a move of good body language.



4. Use Anger Management Techniques to Interrupt the Anger Cycle (ref: LAIDE  SOTUNDE) : The following techniques is the pills to avoid abuse on your woman:

 Pause.
• Imagine how she could get hurt if you beat her up
• Take deep breaths.
• Tell yourself you can handle the situation.
• Walk out!

5. TAG YOURSELF WITH TIP 4: One of my colleague (blogger) gave this steps which was agreed on. Take this final steps to avoid going back to the irritating way:

Forgive
To ensure that the changes you are making go much deeper than the surface, you need to forgive the people in your life that have angered you. It is not easy letting go of past hurts and resentments but the only way to move past your anger is to let go of these feelings and start fresh. (Depending on what, or who, is at the root of your anger, you may have to solicit the help of a professional to achieve this fully.)
Listen
So many times, miscommunication contributes to frustrating and mistrusting situations. The better you listen to what a person is saying, the better you will be able to find a resolution that does not involve an anger response or bashing.
Relax
Angry people are often the ones who let the little things bother them. If you learn to calm down, you will realize that there is no need to get uptight and you will have fewer angry episodes.
Go for counselling
You can also take your wife along. It would be of great help if the counsellor counsels the both. Your wife needs to be involved because she is at the receiving end, she can help you stop beating her.



Tuesday, 16 June 2015

SONG ALERT- TAKE YOU HOME BY SPIRITPHILGAZ FT E2M

International Base Eclectic Record Producer/Audio engineer of 1VA ‘One Voice Africa’ popularly known as Spiritphingaz gang up with KOGA record’s fast  rising recording Artist E2M in ‘Take You Home’ Take you home exposes there indulgence in RnB and african rhythm.
   This is the type of song used in proposing to a lady of your dream... Download song and drop your comments and rating.


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Friday, 20 March 2015

The Subject of Kissing in Relationship, Courtship and Marriage

I have dealt with this topic before but the question keeps coming up in nearly all the meetings I hold, and so I want to revisit this issue again.
Is kissing a sin? That is a question on the lips of many young people who are serving God, but cannot seem to keep away from kissing each other as an expression of their love.
True to it, and as a counselor, I know there are many Christians who are doing this regularly. As a young man myself in courtship, I never had jeru trip with my fiancée then, but I kissed her a few times and I really felt guilty about it. In fact, the feeling I had was that the Holy Spirit was grieved at it. So, I am not oblivious of what you are going through exactly.
Now, having been married for some years, about sixteen years, I can tell you, that the strong urge to kiss as singles is just more of the devil trying to trip you than an expression of love! Folks in western countries might find this ridiculous as well, since they are more liberal and they often greet as well with no lust attached. 

Some of us go ahead and quote the scripture to justify this act. Well, in a very a straight forward way, you will never find a scripture that forbids kissing or that says, “thou shall not kiss.” In fact what you find are scriptures that seems to be encouraging kissing, and that in the New Testament!
All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss. (1 Corinthians 16:20 KJV)
Salute one another with an holy kiss. The churches of Christ salute you. (Romans 16:16 KJV)
Doesn’t this mean that God wants us to kiss?
The instruction to kiss that we see in the above verses and in some more places are verses that we have to consider in their cultural contexts.
The Jews usually kiss one another with a kiss, somewhat on the cheek and not a direct mouth-to-mouth kiss or some French kiss!
This is why Judas kissed Jesus Christ. He was just greeting him. It’s like a handshake.
And while he yet spake, behold a multitude, and he that was called Judas, one of the twelve, went before them, and drew near unto Jesus to kiss him. (Luke 22:47 KJV)
Kisses with Jews as described above is a form of greeting in their culture, hence Paul termed it as Holy Kissing.
In Nigeria, we don’t kiss one another with a kiss. Hence, the Jewish kiss is holy, but the Nigerian kiss is not holy! In non–Jewish states, a kiss outside wedlock between two people who are in love, behind closed doors will not be holy because it will lead to some unholy things!
The initial kiss might even be holy, but after a while, the law of progression will step in and before you know it, kissing will lead to some other things.
If I come into a meeting with my wife and an usher grabs my wife and plants a kiss on her, I will remove my suit and fight! Why? We don’t greet each other with some mouth-to-mouth kiss! If your handshake dey too long sef, I fit suspect you, not to talk of a kiss!
If you and your fiancée are kissing each other behind the church and as your pastor, I bump into you, who will apologise? It’s you! If as your Pastor, I’m kissing my wife behind the church, and you bump into us, who will still apologise? It is still you! Because we are married!
You see after marriage, if you want to kiss yourself 24 hours a day for the next one month; God is okay with it! Why? Your body belongs to each other! But after marriage, you will know that it is not all about kissing! It is about school fees, and house rent and pampers! You won’t feel like kissing all the time! So why would you want to jeopardise your relationship with God with what you can do as long as you want eventually?
The idea of holding on is where maturity is, and it is all about self-control. This is what separates the boys from the men! Ability to delay gratification!
Young ladies, when a guy comes and says, “let’s kiss,” you don’t submit your lips like you are submitting paper in examination hall. The power of life and death lies in your mouth! If the guy is hungry, why must it be your mouth that he would eat? If he is really hungry, doesn’t he know where they sell Kpomo (treated cowhide) in the market?
For married people, feel free to kiss yourselves! If your spouse loves it, then go ahead and give it! It won’t be a sin!
But for singles, always have this at the back of your mind that when you are in love, what you did with him or her, the last time you met will not satisfy you the next time! It is a law, so you need to consciously guard against that.
Finally, let me say, it is not wise to meet somebody and the next thing is that you are kissing! There are people you kiss, and your jaws are locked. There
are people you kiss, and as it were, you cannot pray again. There are strange mouths you kiss for five minutes, and it leads to regrets for the next five years! There are people you kiss, and your destiny is arrested. If you doubt that, ask Jesus, for it was the kiss of Judas that led to his arrest!

Article by: Pastor Dunamis Okunowo - Filed in KHC Devotional
Advice by: Mrs Ijilusi Oluwatomisin

Monday, 9 March 2015

10 WAYS TO KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY WITHOUT ANYONE KNOWING

A recent marriage counsellor Poll found that 51 percent of people think that couples should hold off on sex until marriage, and (somewhat surprisingly) 47 percent of Millennials (ages 18-36) agree. The statistic is unexpected, given the ubiquity of premarital sex depicted in popular culture, but these numbers, which span age, sex, race, education and region, suggest that not everyone gets it on, or thinks you should, before getting hitched.

Virgins poll rate in the world found that : 
Girls dis-virgin between age (13-18 years) = 45%
Girls dis-virgin between age (19 - 25 years) = 70%
Girls dis-virgin between age (26 - 30 years) = 50%

Our CEO (Marital Solution & World Research) came out with 10 ways to keep your virginity. Your contribution is much appreciated... drop your comment below.


1.  NEVER DISCLOSE YOUR STATUS TO FRIENDS: Friend safe, friend kill.. no friend on this earth pray that my friend life should be much better than his own. If you are a virgin and you flaunt your status with your friends, trust me he or she will find a way to break the rule (dis-virgin) either by setting you up or doing that herself...Beware of friends and also be mindful of what you say outside.

2. TOO MUCH OVER-CONFIDENCE WITH OPPOSITE SEX: For this, am not saying you shouldn't trust your spouse/friends but be wise and mindful of what you agree with and where you go with him. Some will tell you that "Afterall, i will be the one to marry you, so let us do it (Dis-virgin), my dear please dont be fool because you cant be in rush to finish up the food you know is yours. Be wise and be smart.

3. PARTYING FREAK: Party Party...sigh., everyone loves fun in one way or the other but sometimes we get carried away with this enjoyment, some ladies get drunk to the extent of forgetting who they are whether male or female. From this kind of activity guys may take advantage of you because your leg is wide open.

4. CARELESS SLEEPING: Everyone has talk about it on how you sleep in friends house both guys and girls. it is very dangerous because you don't know the devilish one who may have lust-thought about you and get down on your knee.

5. DON'T HAVE BORING MOMENT: Never left alone at home or anywhere feeling boredom, because as you have a boring moment many thought will be coming to your heart and which emotional thought may involved.

6. DON'T TALK TOO MUCH WHEN GISTING: Someone that is talkative, will say lesser truth than lies and she can start boosting and talking about her virginity things among friends just to justify herself.

7. SELF-PRAISE: Boosting among your friends that "For me, no guys has ever sleep with me" this is self praise, trust me no matter how your friends loves you, once this happens you are opened for set-up

8. YOUR MIND SET MUST BE OF POSITIVE: You thought must be of positive, and never imagine a act of lust in your mind.

9. BE STRONG IN THE SPIRIT (RELIGIOUS): Be religious and prayerful, follow the words of God you believe.

10. DONT READ SEX OR ROMANTIC MAGAZINE: Reading all kind of romantic magazines can cause you of Lustful thinking and having negative thought about virginity. I am assuring you, Virginity is part of woman Pride.

Thursday, 5 February 2015

Radio Presenter and Journalist Pye revealed - 10 Reasons Why You're not Feeling Sex


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Sex Sex Sex... It is important to talk about sex. I found out that majority of us are not feeling sexy or sex, if I can just put it straight, but the most important is to know why we are not feeling sex anymore then it would pave way to find a lasting solution to the problem

1. You Have InsomniaSimply put, "you're not going to feel horny if you don't get enough sleep," Laurie Mintz, a professor of counseling psychology at the University of Florida and author of "A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex" told HuffPost. More serious, persistent sleep problems like insomnia -- which can be short- or longterm and is characterized by trouble falling asleep, staying asleep or both -- can take a particularly heavy toll.

2. You've Grappled With InfertilityMore often than not, infertility is a wrenching experience for both partners, and one that can influence sexual desire for months, or even years. When couples struggle to have a baby, it's typical for sex to become highly scheduled and goal-oriented, Mintz said, and goal-oriented sex tends to be less pleasurable. After long stretches of trying to conceive, the feeling of "I want something really badly and my body is failing me" becomes wrapped up in sex and sexual 


3. Someone Cheated "After an affair, it's really hard for many people to have sex and not think, 'You did this with someone else,'" Mintz explained. It's not atypical for women to have sex issues after being cheated on and finding out about it, or after they themselves cheat (whether or not their partner knows). "After a woman has an affair, there can be guilt and stress and even fear of, 'If I do this differently [during sex], they'll figure it out.'" she added

4. You're A New MomThere are plenty of reasons why, as a new mom, you might have zilch going on in the sexual desire arena. First, there's sheer exhaustion, Mintz said, but there are also hormonal changes that come with pregnancy and birth, and then there's the task of getting used to your body in its new form. Plus, some women can experience vaginal dryness while breastfeeding.

5. Your Thyroid's OffWhenever she sees a female client who recently experienced a sudden onset of low sexual desire, Mintz sends her to get her thyroid checked. The thyroid gland, which is located in the front of the neck, secretes several key hormones and can influence a person's sex life (male or female) if it's too active, or not active enough

6. You're Taking MedsOftentimes, women don't realize that certain medications are altering their sexual desire and performance, Mintz said. Hormonal birth control is a biggie -- a major study from 2010 that looked at sexual function in more than 1,000 women found that those who were on hormonal birth control had lower levels of desire and arousal than those who were not


7. You're Insecure About Your Body: "About 10 to 20 percent of my clients have body image issues that sabotage their sex lives," Amy Levine, a sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure once said. Though men certainlyhave body insecurities, she tends to see more females than males who come to her struggling with body image. Many see not having sex as a way to hide body parts they feel insecure about. And that, in turn, can lead to overall diminished desire, Levine said.


8. You've Gone Through A Big Hormone ChangeHormonally-speaking, women generally experience some pretty big highs and lows throughout the their lives, and those swings can have all sorts of effects. For many women, menopause can lead to a drop in sexual desire, as the body produces less estrogen. (Although, as Mintz explained, some menopausal women report that their sex drive actually increases.) And the aforementioned new mom-hood can be 



9. Stagnation: Stagnation can mean many things when it comes to sex. Physical stagnation, or lack of movement, can take a toll on libido, Levine said. "It's important to move your body and get energy flowing," she explained, adding that although few scientific studies have addressed the connection between general movement and sex, it's easy to see how oxygenating the body and getting blood flowing, through yoga or a movement class can allow "tingly sensations to activate your 
10. Your Partner's Technique: "If you're regularly having sex and aren't ending up satisfied, you're not going to be very motivated to keep doing it," Mintz said. Surveys suggest that up to 70 percent of women have faked orgasms at one point or another, which -- as countless women's magazines have counseled -- can be problematic, because it leads your partner to believe (falsely) that what he or she is doing gets you there. The most important piece of sex advice Mintz said she can 

Tuesday, 3 February 2015

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO REV. SAM ADEYEMI OF DAYSTAR CHURCH


Today, we celebrate the life of a role model to thousands of role models. A charismatic leader who has influenced the lives of millions across the world by building their capacity to influence their world - Rev Sam Adeyemi
Rev. Sam Adeyemi



Rev Sam Adeyemi is the President of Success Power International, President of Daystar Leadership Academy and Senior Pastor of Daystar Christian Centre; a fast growing, life changing church committed to "raising role models" based in Lagos, Nigeria - a product of the vision he received in 1994 in the place of prayer.

The dynamic Pastor, Teacher, Motivational Speaker, Best Selling Author, life coach, radio/TV host and multi award winning recipient, was born to the family of Chief and Mrs S.B Adeyemi on February 3, 1967, and hails from Yagba - West LGA of Kogi state.

He is married to the beautiful and elegant Adenike Adeyemi (nee Ogunmola) - The Director, Women Ministries of Daystar Christian Centre, and the President of Real Women Foundation, a motivational  and healing ministry for women. Pastor Nike also runs a rehabilitation centre for prostitutes and women in distress. They are blessed with three lovely children.

Praiseworld, Pyeworld and MaritalSolution&WorldResearch blogs celebrates the 45th birthday of a man of God whose sermons, teachings, and seminars on scriptural success, Leadership and Financial Principles have not only motivated, encouraged and spurred loads of people to success, but also won lost souls to Christ. HAPPY BIRTHDAY OUR LEADER, HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAYSTAR!

Reference: Praiseworld.